The CONCEPT of LOVE in my opinion is highly MISUNDERSTOOD lately.
True LOVE isn't a FEELING or an EMOTION because FEELINGS and EMOTIONS are bad LEADERS but excellent FOLLOWERS.
True LOVE is a CHOICE and DECISION to COMMIT to LOVING someone UNCONDITIONALLY without EXPECTING anything in RETURN.
It ALWAYS strives to see WHAT the other person NEEDS tomorrow and PROVIDE it TODAY.
True LOVE is PROACTIVE in NATURE and seeks for the WELL-BEING of the other PERSON than it does about itself.
It's more of a VERB than it's a NOUN.
It GIVES not for WHAT it can GET in return but for the JOY in GIVING.
True LOVE does not NEED a REASON to LOVE.
It's UNCONDITIONAL.
LOVE means DIFFERENT-THINGS to DIFFERENT-PEOPLE.
Until then, the smartest RESPONSE when someone tells you "I LOVE YOU" shouldn't be "I LOVE YOU TOO" but getting an UNDERSTANDING of their DEFINITION of LOVE.
This will certainly give you CLARITY on how the RELATIONSHIP will turn out if it makes it BEYOND the INTRODUCTION.
REASONS fade with TIME, so does the LOVE.
LOVE TRUELY and UNCONDITIONALLY.
It's funny that most people are LOOKING-OUT for the RIGHT-PERSON for their LIVES but NEGLECT taking the TIME to BECOME the RIGHT-PERSON in their HEART.
So that when the QUEST of looking for the RIGHT-PERSON ends they'd eventually have someone to OFFER the said RIGHT-PERSON.
It's WISDOM to PREPARE for what we're LOOKING for to FULLY-MAXIMIZE it when it's finally in our LIVES.
WISDOM also demands that we KEEP-UP the STRATEGIES and PASSION while in the PURSUIT as well as after the QUEST is SUCCESSFUL.
VERSATILITY, SPONTANEITY, TEACHABLE and ADJUSTABLE spirit are key COMPONENTS in the QUEST.
COMMUNICATING with the RIGHT-LANGUAGE encourages UNDERSTANDING because COMMUNICATION is COMPLETE when UNDERSTANDING ensures.
While looking out for the BEST-PERSON for us, let's be READY for the RESPONSIBILITIES that comes with it and be RESPONSIBLE likewise.
Above all, let your STANDARDS and TEMPLATES for the QUEST be founded on the RIGHT-PRINCIPLES and God's PLAN for our lives.
The TIME we're most PREPARED for DATING and RELATIONSHIP is when we do not NEED someone else to COMPLETE-US, fullfil a certain PURPOSE in our LIVES, INSTILL in us a SENSE of WORTH or BOOST our SELF-ESTEEM.
These are VIRTUES we can't get from OTHERS but OURSELVES prior to making the DECISION.
Don't walk into a RELATIONSHIP with the MINDSET of DEPENDENCY, a VACUUM that NEEDS to be FILLED by the OTHER-PERSON or to get TEMPORAL-DESIRES met.
This will definitely CRIPPLE and DRY-UP the ENERGY in the RELATIONSHIP even before it sees the LIGHT of DAY because it's BASED on a WRONG-PREMISE.
Walk into a RELATIONSHIP not for WHAT you can GET from it rather WHAT you can BUILD-OUT of it TOGETHER achieving common GOALS and FULFILLING-PURPOSE.
Take the TIME to PREPARE for it so that WHEN you finally fine YOURSELF in one, it will be like two FULL-GLASSES of WATER poured into EACH-OTHER with RESULTANT-EFFECT as OVERFLOW devoid of the NEED to be COMPLETED by the OTHER-PERSON.
Until you're completely SINGLE, you wont VALUE a RELATIONSHIP because RELATIONSHIPS and MARRIAGES are as GOOD as our SINGLE lives.
SINGLENESS is God's ORIGINAL-PLAN for human DEVELOPMENT.
It's a STATE to be PURSUED rather than to be IGNORED.
It's different from being UNMARRIED or LONELY.
Singleness is a SOLITARY-STATE that promotes SELF-DISCOVERY, INTIMACY with God and oneself.
To be COMPLETELY-SINGLE means to be.:
SEPARATE: Being set apart from OTHERS, Different from OTHERS, Detached from OTHERS.
UNIQUE: Being ORIGINAL, DISTINCT and SPECIAL like no other.
WHOLE: Being COMPLETE, UNIFIED, ONE with SELF without DEFICIT, ALL in One.
These three COMPONENTS defines SINGLENESS.
It's through SINGLENESS that we DISCOVER and SHARPEN our SELF-ESTEEM, SELF-WORTH & VALUE and a sense of PURPOSE for our lives.
It's the most important PREREQUISITES for RELATIONSHIPS and MARRIAGES.
RELATIONSHIPS gets BETTER the more SINGLE we're in IT, not literally but as in MINDSET.
SINGLENESS is more of a MINDSET than it's a STATUS.
It's the BEST-GIFT you can OFFER to your PARTNER.
FAMILY is God's DESIGN and PROTOTYPE for any SOCIETY.
Our SOCIETY is as STRONG as our FAMILIES would be.
Our SOCIETY is a DIRECT-REFLECTION of the HEALTHINESS of our FAMILIES.
SINGLES makes up MARRIAGES that makes FAMILY'S.
Therefore the HEALTH and WELL-BEING of our SOCIETY is largely DEPENDENT on how SINGLE we were before DATING.
If we DATE right, we would MARRY right.
If we MARRY right, we would PARENT right.
If we PARENT right, we would get our FAMILIES in ORDER.
And if our FAMILIES are in ORDER, our SOCIETY will follow LIKEWISE.
The CHALLENGE isn't the FINISHED-PRODUCT but rather the RECIPE and INGREDIENTS used in MAKING the FINAL-PRODUCT.
It's out of CHARACTER to point fingers at the RESULTS instead of the RECIPE.
How EFFICIENT and EFFECTIVE our SINGLE-LIVES are is largely CONNECTED to the FUNCTIONALITY of our SOCIETY.
For some of us we can't go back to being SINGLES but we can strive to MAKING a DIFFERENCE where we ARE with WHAT we HAVE uplifting our society.
Healthy RELATIONSHIPS ought to always BEGIN at the SPIRITUAL and INTELLECTUAL levels.
The levels of PURPOSE,DREAMS, VISIONS, PASSIONS, MOTIVATIONS in LIFE,PERSPECTIVES about LIFE, INTERESTS and ASPIRATIONS.
It ought to ACCESS and ASK questions concerning suitors EMOTIONAL-PERSONALITY and its MANAGEMENT-MODALITIES.
PHYSICALITIES though IMPORTANT should be SECONDARY as regarding getting our PRIORITIES right.
We HARDLY would MISS the RED-FLAGS if we BEGIN the RIGHT-WAY.
RELATIONSHIPS gets EASIER when COMMUNICATION is KEY and UNDERSTANDING is the GOAL.
An UNDERSTANDING that we're not PERFECT will save the RELATIONSHIP a great deal when ARGUMENTS set's in.
FORGIVENESS is an integral part of HEALTHY-RELATIONSHIPS.
OPENNESS and HONESTY is the best way to establishing TRUST.
SECRECY drives away TRUST while promoting STRIFE and RESENTMENT.
RELATIONSHIPS can be EASY to be in when we EMBRACE the RIGHT-TEMPLATES as our FOUNDATION.
We all were CREATED and DESIGNED by God EQUAL but DIFFERENT in our UNIQUENESS.
We have DIFFERENT-LANGUAGES of COMMUNICATIONS likewise how we ASSIMILATE and PROCESS-INFORMATIONS.
For a WOMAN, Words spoken is an EXPRESSION of WHAT & HOW she FEELS first-hand others follow.
For a MAN, words spoken is an EXPRESSION of WHAT & HOW he THINKS first-hand others follow.
A WOMAN says WHAT'S on her HEART and THINKS in DETAILS SUBJECTIVELY and INSTINCTIVELY but ADJUSTABLE in her DECISIONS.
A MAN says WHAT'S on his MIND and THINKS in a STRAIGHT LINE OBJECTIVELY but RESOLUTE in his DECISIONS due to his EGO.
For a WOMAN, AFFECTION and ATTENTION is how she interprets LOVE.
For a MAN, RESPECT and REGARD is how he interprets LOVE.
This isn't a WEAKNESS but rather a CAREFUL-DESIGN by God to COMPLEMENT themselves.
We're EQUAL but DIFFERENT in our UNIQUENESS.
RELATIONSHIPS gets BETTER the MOMENT we start APPRECIATING our SIMILARITIES while RESPECTING our DIFFERENCES.
COMMUNICATE with the RIGHT-LANGUAGE and you'll be AMAZED with the RESULTS.
COMMUNICATION is almost the HARDEST thing to engage-in in RELATIONSHIPS if the RIGHT-MEASURES aren't in place.
It's the ABILITY to ensure that WORDS spoken are UNDERSTOOD in WHAT it SAYS and also WHAT it MEANS.
It's the ABILITY to LISTEN and UNDERSTAND the MOTIVES of the WORDS spoken UNINTERRUPTEDLY while taking TURNS to speak.
LISTENING with a PREFORMED-RESPONSE and MINDSETS is a bad RECIPE for UNENDING conversations.
COMMUNICATION is different from CASUAL-TALKS, it requires TIME, PATIENCE and HARDWORK.
If it says SORRY, BE-SORRY and STAY-SORRY
WOMEN aren't EMOTIONAL by CHOICE, they're simply DESIGNED to EMOTE to THINGS and SITUATIONS as their FIRST-RESPONSE.
It isn't a WEAKNESS but a POWERFUL-VIRTUE used in SOFTENING situations whilst ensuring PEACE and BALANCE.
MEN on the contrary are EMOTIONAL but it isn't their FIRST-RESPONSE to SITUATIONS, they prefer receding back THINKING-LOGICALLY finding SOLUTIONS to the problem.
Their EMOTIONS are deeply HIDDEN in the VISAGE of their MASCULINITY dying to EXPRESS itself but they CHOOSE to STAY-STRONG and ACT-STRONG.
Great CONVERSATIONS isn't alway about WHO has the FINAL-WORDS on a SUBJECT of discuss.
Great CONVERSATIONS involves DEEP-MENTAL engagements by both PARTIES without the NEED to FEEL-RIGHT or PROVE a POINT at the EXPENSE of BELITTLING another.
It's INDICATIVE of the fact that BOTH parties are well VESTED with the CONCEPT of DIFFERENT-PERSPECTIVES rather than have people SEE through their PERSPECTIVES alone.
FRIENDSHIPS and RELATIONSHIPS hardly dies a NATURAL-DEATH rather it's MURDERED daily on the platforms of EGO, repeated CHARACTER-FLAWS that WON'T change, IGNORANCE that's ALLERGIC to LEARNING, the NEED to FEEL-RIGHT than to let PEACE reign, and lastly ME, MYSELF and I ATTITUDES.
What BENEFIT is there INITIATING a CONVERSATION when UNDERSTANDING isn't the GOAL or conversely LISTENING to REPLY with SHOTS of aggravating WORDS as opposed to striking an UNDERSTANDING amicably.
Words TASTED before LETTING them out causes no HARM but can HEAL a SOUL.
Talk SOFTLY with GENTLE approach not as in a FIGHT or to SCORE-POINTS.
MUTUAL-RESPECT and KIND-GESTURES are CONVERSATION STARTERS. PRACTICE it.
I BELIEVE we can EMBRACE a BLISSFUL-LIFE in our FRIENDSHIPS, RELATIONSHIPS and MARRIAGES if we take off the PRESSURE that we put on OURSELVES and our PARTNERS.
Instead move towards ACCEPTING ourselves and our PARTNERS just the way WE'RE with an UNDERSTANDING that we're two IMPERFECT-PEOPLE working on THEMSELVES towards PERFECTION.
Above all, keep IN MIND that God will NEVER choose a PARTNER for us but He will POINT us in the RIGHT-DIRECTION to find our suitable HELPER, ASSISTANT and COMFORTER.
God is in the BUSINESS of presenting to us RAW-MATERIALS not FINISH-PRODUCTS, so we could CULTIVATE out of it the PICTURE PERFECT PARTNER that's in our head.
Remember, EVERYTHING that's being CULTIVATED requires TIME, PATIENCE and UNDERSTANDING before you start SEEING the FRUITS.
Be PATIENT with your PARTNER, give each TIME to ADJUST and above all UNDERSTAND that they're DOING their BEST to be the PERFECT one for you.
APPRECIATING little THINGS and EFFORTS in RELATIONSHIPS is like a FERTILIZER that speeds up the GROWTH process.
PRACTICE it.
As I will be hanging the Boots here on SINGLENESS, RELATIONSHIPS, FRIENDSHIPS and MARRIAGES.
I urge us to always WALK-WORTHY ourselves of the THINGS we're LOOKING-OUT for in others.
No one KNOWS it all, HONEST-MISTAKES should be PARDONED rather than make a BIG-DEAL out of it.
And if your HEART is in it and it's not TOXIC, FIGHT for it and PROTECT it but if it's TOXIC, taking the L is the BEST-OPTION on the table.
Don't LOOSE your SANITY and PERSONA on the PLATFORM of HOPES that HE or SHE will CHANGE.
Those are LIES we tell OURSELVES just to FEEL-GOOD while IGNORING the problem.
If they didn't CHANGE to GET-YOU, chances are they won't CHANGE to KEEP-YOU.
Never IGNORE repeated RED-FLAGS because you're trying to be OPTIMISTIC or deeply in LUST.
Don't make HASTY-DECISIONS just because you're under PRESSURE, it's your LIFE that's on the line.
Take out TIME to THINK through your DECISIONS before MAKING them.
Be SINCERE about your PRIORITIES.
And when GO D is at the CENTER of your DECISION-MAKING process, then you can be REST-ASSURED that you'd be FINE even when the STORM arises.
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