THE JOURNEY TOWARD LIFE'S FULFILLMENT #2

"THE NATURE OF PURPOSE"

This desire to understand the nature of something is an important part of learning.

The nature of a thing, by definition, is the “particular combination of qualities belonging to a person, animal, thing or class by birth, origin or constitution” or “the instincts or inherent tendencies that direct its conduct.” Thus, a study of the nature of purpose will reveal both the qualities that belong to purpose and the inherent tendencies that affect its behavior. 

This topic would be best discussed under the following subtopics:

PURPOSE IS INHERENT

When a manufacturer creates a new product, he lets the product’s intended use govern the design, function and nature of the product so that the fulfillment of its purpose is inseparably built into it.

 Purpose predicts the nature of something, and nature is that which a product inherently is.

 Nature is always given for the express purpose of executing the manufacturer’s reason for creating the product.

When God creates men and women, He designs them to fulfill their function and gives them certain qualities and characteristics that enable them to perform His intended purpose. 

These abilities are yours before birth. 

They do not come to you when you receive Jesus and are reborn.

Thus, your natural inclinations to socialize with people or to seek solitude, to think with your mind or to do things with your hands, to communicate with words or to express yourself through the various art forms, to come up with the ideas or to put them into action, to lead or to follow, to inspire or to manage, to calculate or to demonstrate are part of your makeup and your personality from the time

God chose to make you and designed you in a particular way. 

They relate to your purpose, which is a natural, innate, intimate part of who you are. 

You are designed for your purpose. 

You are perfect for your purpose.

Your purpose, your abilities and your outlook on life cannot be separated, because your purpose determines how you will function, which establishes how you are designed, which is related to your potential, which is connected to your natural abilities. 

To remove your purpose would be to significantly change who you are, because your purpose both informs and reveals your nature and your responsibilities. 

Everything you naturally have and inherently are is necessary for you to fulfill your purpose. 

Your height, race, skin color, language, physical features and intellectual capacity are all designed for your purpose.

This is why it is very important and essential that you never try to become like someone else. 

You can and should learn from others, but you must never become them. 

You can never fulfill your purpose without being yourself. 

Who and what you are is important and essential to why you are. 

Purpose is why.

In new birth, God reclaims what is rightfully His. 

He redirects the natural skills and abilities that satan perverted and employs them for the completion of His plans and purposes. 

Taking away what is destroying you, He encourages you to rediscover all those things that you like to do. As He restores His anointing on your life, the power to perform with excellence reinstates the beauty and the perfection of your innate abilities. 

Then He says, “Go ahead. 

Do all you like to do for My glory and the advancement of My Kingdom.”

The biblical character of Moses is a good example of the inherent nature of purpose. 

Moses was a man with a deliverance instinct. 

He was born to be a deliverer. 

Even before he met God, he wanted to set people free. 

One day he saw an Egyptian beating a Hebrew. 

When no one was looking, he killed the Egyptian and hid him in the sand.

The next day he saw two Hebrews fighting. 

When he asked one of them, “Why are you hitting your fellow Hebrew?” the man replied, “Who made you ruler and judge over us? 

Are you thinking of killing me as you killed the Egyptian?” (Exodus 2:13-14)

When Moses heard this, he became afraid and fled to a nearby country where he shepherded his father-in-law’s sheep (Exodus 2:1-3:1). 

Years later, God reclaimed for His own purposes the deliverance and leadership skills that He had given to Moses. 

He sent Moses to the Pharoah of Egypt to free the Israelites from slavery (Exodus 3:10).

God didn’t throw away the skills and the talents that had been with Moses from birth, He simply renewed them and redirected them to their intended use. 

The purpose of Moses’ life didn’t change; the use of the gifts that fulfilled his purpose were simply redirected toward the purpose for which they had been given. 

Those same gifts God had given Moses at birth—basic components of his makeup— brought freedom to the Israelites and glory to God. 

In essence, Moses was equipped for his purpose, and so are you.

PURPOSE IS INDIVIDUAL

The individual nature of purpose is best seen in the various parts of a product. 

Each has a unique function and design that enables it to meet the manufacturer’s reason for including it in the product. 

This uniqueness doesn’t make the various parts unequal, just different. 

In other words, you are the way you are because of why you are.

This same principle applies to men and women. God needs you because your purpose is unique. 

He’s designed you specifically to meet His requirements. 

No one has your fingerprint, your personality or your particular combination of natural skills and talents. Oh, they may look like you, but they aren’t you, because there’s a part of God only you can express. 

In essence, there is something you came to this planet to do that the world needs in this generation. 

Your birth is evidence that your purpose is necessary.

PURPOSE IS OFTEN MULTIPLE

Just as purpose is specific to a particular individual or product, even so that purpose may be varied and numerous. 

As we have seen, God gave the lights He placed in the sky a variety of purposes. 

The sun, for example, was created to 1) separate the day from the night, 2) mark the seasons, days and years, 3) govern the day, 4) separate light from darkness, and 5) give light to the earth (Genesis 1:14-18).

This multiple purpose is visible throughout creation. 

Trees give us oxygen, shade and fruit; animals provide food and clothing; flowers beautify the earth, satisfy the bees’ need for nectar and supply pollen for the production of fruit; and men and women assume the varied roles of spouse, parent, worker, church member and friend.

With the multiplication of purpose always comes different scopes of vision, which require varied actions and responses. 

Moses was both confidant and judge, suiting his actions and responses to meet the purpose he was fulfilling. 

Knowing and understanding the variety of purposes that had claims on his life influenced how well he fulfilled his overall purpose as the leader of God’s people. 

In some respects, his ability to meet the demands of this multiplicity of purpose was made possible by the interdependent nature of purpose. 

He needed Joshua, Jethro and others to help him carry out his God-given purpose.

You were born with and for a purpose. 

However, that purpose may incorporate many minor facets whose purposes or intents are to fulfill the greater, overall purpose for your life.

PURPOSE IS INTERDEPENDENT

Everything has a particular purpose that is linked to a greater purpose. 

Or to say it another way, everything has a purpose larger than its specific end so that every individual purpose is fulfilled only when the personal task is pursued within the scope of the greater purpose and for its fulfillment. 

Nothing exists for itself; everything is related to something else.

The moon provides a good example of the interdependent nature of purpose. 

When God created lights and placed them in the sky, He made a greater light, the sun, and a lesser light, the moon. 

The sun was given the task of ruling the day and the moon was designed to govern the night.

The moon is not created to shine—it has no light of its own—but to reflect light like a large mirror. 

Thus, the moon catches the light of the sun and sends it back to the side of the earth that is away from the sun, providing light in the night. 

That’s why the moon rotates in a certain position all year. 

Although it appears differently to us on any given night of the month, the moon’s position does not change. 

To fulfill its purpose, the moon must always remain in a position to catch the sun’s light and reflect it to the earth.

It also follows that the sun and the earth must remain in position for the moon to fulfill its purpose. 

If the earth leaves its designated rotation around the sun or tilts on its axis farther than God’s design intended, the moon cannot do what it was created to do.

Or take a battery. 

The purpose of a battery is to store energy until it is needed. 

If the battery is never placed into a position that requires its stored energy, it cannot fulfill its purpose. The satisfaction of its purpose is related to its position in a product that has a larger purpose.

So a car battery cannot fulfill its purpose unless you turn the key in the ignition and allow the battery to send power to the engine, which starts the engine that powers the wheels that move the car. 

Without all the other parts, neither the battery, the engine, the wheels nor the car can fulfill their purposes. 

Everything needs something.

The world needs you and the purpose for which you were born. 

You also need the purposes of others in order to fulfill your purpose. 

Purpose cannot be fulfilled in isolation.

This same phenomenon of interdependent purpose is evident in the Church. 

The apostle Paul uses the image of the body to describe this interrelatedness.

Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others (Romans 12:4-5).

… God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 

If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it. 

Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it (1 Corinthians 12:24-27).

Thus, we see that the interrelatedness of the Church is part of God’s purpose. 

He gives to each member a task that contributes to the Church’s overall purpose, thereby allowing the Church to grow and build “itself up in love, as each part does its work” (Ephesians 4:16). 

Nothing exists for itself. 

Everything is part of a larger purpose.

Can you imagine? Not even God could fulfill His purpose without the cooperation of His creation. 

Just suppose the tree on which Jesus died had refused to become a tree or if Joseph of Arimathea had not purchased the tomb in which Jesus was destined to lay. 

Your purpose is designed to affect history within and beyond your generation. 

You are a necessary part of the world’s population and a vital link in this generation. 

We need your purpose.

PURPOSE IS PERMANENT

Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails (Proverbs 19:21).

God has also given purpose the quality of permanence. 

Once a manufacturer designs, produces and markets a product that fulfills a certain purpose, he doesn’t change that purpose because a consumer doesn’t like the way it works. 

He may change the design or the components or the materials used in the components, but he will not change the purpose, because the purpose behind the product is what gives it meaning. 

In other words, plans might change, but purpose is constant. 

What God wants is established, but how He gets it may vary.

This quality of purpose combats the many plans and schemes that we come up with to meet our God-intended reason for life. 

PURPOSE IS RESILIENT

Related to the quality of permanence is the characteristic of resiliency in purpose. 

When a manufacturer sets a purpose for a product and develops a plan to achieve that purpose, no amount of problems with the manufacturing process will change the product’s purpose. 

No matter how bad things become, the manufacturer will not say, “We’re having trouble getting this product to do what we want it to do, so let’s have it do this instead.”

Each difficulty that seeks to hinder progress toward the completion of a product that fulfills the manufacturer’s original intent is used to learn more about the product and the way it must naturally function to carry out its purpose. 

The journey may include bumps and detours, but eventually it will come to the desired end. 

In other words, no matter how bad the process becomes, the manufacturer uses the problems for good as he incorporates the insight gained from the challenges to build a superior product that does all it’s supposed to do.

If you have made decisions that have interfered with God’s plan and purpose for your life, He has arranged a reformation program to redeem the detours. 

He uses the experiences to refine you as a purposeful part of the whole. 

Purpose transforms mistakes into miracles and disappointments into testimonies.

This resiliency of purpose is evident in the lives of many people who have missed their purpose. 

They had great talent, but they didn’t know what they were supposed to do with it. 

I think of the apostle Paul. He intrigues me. Paul, or Saul as he was known before he met Christ on the road to Damascus, was a very talented person.

Although Paul’s natural talents and skills were initially used in opposition to his God-given task of carrying the Good News of Jesus to the Gentiles, his purpose did not change. 

God changed his name but not his purpose. Purpose remains true no matter what path a person or a thing takes to achieve its intended goal.

God’s purpose is not hindered by your past. 

He turned a coward (Gideon) into a mighty leader (Judges 6-8), and a murderer (Moses) into a deliverer (Exodus 3). 

He also turned a prostitute (the Samaritan woman Jesus met at the well of Jacob) into a preacher (John 4:1-42). 

Imagine what He could make of you. 

You are not too old to resume your purpose. 

Nothing you have done can cancel your purpose. 

The world is waiting for you to produce your purpose.

PURPOSE IS UNIVERSAL

No manufacturer goes to the trouble to design, produce and market a product for which he has no purpose. Who would want a useless thing? 

Thus, everything has a purpose. 

Or, to say it another way, the gift of purpose is universal. 

Nothing is created without a purpose behind the making. 

This principle is evident in nature.

Every human being, every living thing, indeed everything that exists, has been chosen by God to fulfill His purposes. 

We all have part of this universal purpose. 

When God chose the sun, He chose it for a purpose. 

Then He created it with the ability to complete its purpose. 

God also chose the mosquito and designed into it everything it needs to fulfill its reason for being. 

The oceans, too, were created by God to perform the tasks He dictated for them before they were completed. 

Nothing is outside God’s universal purpose. 

Whenever this commonness of purpose is not recognized, death occurs.

Most of humanity has lost sight of our universal purpose, we are not fulfilling all that God purposed for our lives. 

That failure to live out all that God put us here to do has not changed God’s purpose. 

His desire to see all men and women know life as He intended it, so strong that He has tried again and again throughout the history of man to redirect us into His predestined path. 

The life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ is His final attempt. 

Through Him we can move from death to life. 

Through Him we can rediscover our God-given universal purpose.

Not one person on this planet is outside that will of God, for He has chosen each of us to share in His glory. Thus, no matter how your life started or how bad it has been, you are not a mistake. 

God intended for you to live, both physically and spiritually. 

He would not have allowed you to be born if you were not included in His universal purposes. 

You are necessary. 

You are essential.

The universality of purpose is something we can cling to when life becomes meaningless and without value. Together with the intrinsic, individual, multiple, interdependent, permanent and resilient qualities of purpose, it gives us an assurance that we are not mistakes. 

God had a purpose for us when He planted us in our mothers’ wombs. 

That purpose has not changed. 

The challenge that lies before us is to understand the basic principles that underlie purpose so we can recognize purpose at work in our lives and allow it to guide and redirect our paths.

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart …

Jeremiah 1:5

A JOURNEY TOWARD LIFE'S FULFILMENT#1

Everything in life has a purpose. 

Everyone on this planet was born with and for a purpose.

 It is this purpose that is the only source of meaning.

 Without purpose, life is an experiment or a haphazard journey that results in frustration, disappointment and failure.

 Without purpose, life is subjective, or it is a trial and error game that is ruled by environmental influences and the circumstances of the moment. 

Likewise, in the absence of purpose, time has no meaning, energy has no reason and life has no precision. Therefore, it is essential that we understand and discover our purpose in life so that we can experience an effective, full and rewarding life.

Purpose, therefore, is the original intent in the mind of the creator that motivated him to create a particular item.

 It is the why that explains the reason for existence.

 Every product is a child of purpose.

 In other words, before any product is made, there is a purpose established in the mind of the manufacturer that gives conception to the idea that becomes the substance for the design and production of the product. 

Thus, purpose precedes production.

Every product is produced by purpose for a purpose. 

It exists for its original purpose and thus can find its true fulfillment only in performing the purpose for which it was created. 

Until purpose is discovered, existence has no meaning.

Let us consider, for example, a mobile phone. 

If it were possible for us to enter the mind of the person who invented this product, we might see a desire or an intent to create a medium through which people could communicate with each other without seeing themselves physically regardless of the distance between them, thus enhancing a free flow of information transition between the two parties. 

This intent would be established both as the desired end or result and the predetermined purpose for the product, which is the first stage of production.

After the purpose of the product has been determined, the second stage of production follows, which is the development of a design to produce the function that will fulfill the purpose. 

The design dictates the necessary components and materials for production, which is then incorporated into the product’s specifications. 

When all the drawings, specifications and designs are completed and the materials have been procured, production can begin.

It is essential to note that the production of the product does not begin until the purpose for the product has been established, and the success of the project is not determined until the product does exactly what its purpose requires. 

Thus, all things begin and end with purpose.

This principle pervades all creation. 

Nature abounds with evidence of this eternal law. 

The Master Manufacturer of all created things has made all His creations for a definite purpose and has established that purpose as the ultimate definition of success. 

You and I are products of His purposeful creation.

Your Purpose Is an Integral Part of You

Like the manufacturer who created the mobile phone for a specific purpose, so God created you with a definite purpose in mind. 

Your existence is evidence that this generation needs something that your life contains. 

You are the creation that can meet God’s desired result.

Consummating that purpose does not just happen as a by-product of life. 

You are responsible for the intentional fulfillment of your purpose so the world may benefit from your contribution, just like millions of people are benefiting from the purpose of the mobile phone. 

In essence, you were born for a purpose and with a purpose. 

Your personal fulfillment is possible only in so far as you complete your destiny.

 The discovery of your personal purpose and its relationship to God’s universal purpose must be the basis from which you live. 

You must strive to be who you were born to be.

As you discover who you are, you will learn that your purpose, your identity, your uniqueness and your potential are interdependent. 

You cannot truly “know thyself,” until you discover your purpose. 

This is true because known purpose reveals the particular components God built into you to enable you to achieve all that He prepared for you.

Nothing is truly yours until you understand it—not even yourself. 

Some people are born knowing what they want to do and even how to do it. 

The rest of us must spend hours figuring out what to do with our lives. 

Vague goals such as “I want to be happy,” “I want to make the world a better place to live,” or even “I want to be rich” are nearly useless. 

We must ask the primary question

—“Why am I here?”—and reply with an unqualified answer—“To be myself and to express myself fully.”

Concern for doing the right thing rather than a desire to do things right must always guide you. 

That right thing is the purpose for which God created you and gave you breath. 

You are special and unique. 

God made you from an original mold, then threw it away when you were completed.

Check out your uniqueness and find out what differentiates you from the billions of people who inhabit this planet. 

Then pursue your aspiration deliberately and consistently. 

Be what you are. 

Capitalize on the natural skills and talents with which you were born, and don’t lose them. 

When others belittle your special gifts and try to remake you according to their plans and purposes, refuse to yield to their domination. 

Don’t let anyone prevent you from becoming and doing all that you were born to be and do. 

Remember, if you don’t deploy yourself, others will soon employ you. 

Above all else, pursue purpose with a passion and experience the reason for your life.

The purposes of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out.

Proverbs 20:5

LIVING ABOVE THE STANDARDS OF THE SOCIETY

Last I talked about self imposed limitations people have placed on themselves and the way forward, here's the flip side with societal influence on people's mind and what it has made out of most people in every society. 

The society has become such an expert in making people an intelligent mediocre by imposing standards and rules that automatically dictates how and what they should become of themselves to the point that they give up on themselves and let loose of their true identities, passions and Dreams. 

They've thought people to behave and conform instead of Releasing, pouring and contributing that part of them to improving the society, in order words just shotup and bahave,this sound contradictory, but it shows how selfish the society can be ,as long as they're making their returns from exploiting it citizens , life according to them is good.

They've thought people to think inside of the box only.

They've thought people to be grounded at all times never to brake the rules they've set to limit our abilities, talents and skills. 

They've thought people what they can and can't do with their lives.

They've told people how high they can fly and how far they can dream and envision their lives.

The society has also trained people to become experts in doing what they're told and not what's right.

The reason is because no society wants people in it to be wise and knowledgeable so they won't have to challenge her or ask questions whatsoever, instead they want to have them as subjugates, slaves and sarvants which they can be dictated for and have their mind brainwashed with their own perspective about life to the extent that when they're done with them they'd feel worthless.

This are mere dorms of the society set by fellow men with ulterior motives and not God's principles for who they were meant to be!!!

I dare you to brake free from this entanglements and start living your true self,  your true identity and your true purpose. 

Atimes I hear people make statement like..."Sorry it's never done that way here, you better do as you're told or you quit". Well for me there's nothing wrong with people of such mind-set because I believe people are entitled to their opinions but the challenge here is if only they knew better probably they would understand that nobody has to live their lives to the standards of the society or to conform to the Successes as defined by the society.

Societal success and perceptions about life are all geared toward making you arive too soon and too small compared to what you could and should have accomplish following God's principles and purpose for your life. 

The good news is that life is about choices,  you can decide to live your life through the society or wake up to the realities of your Potentials, Passion and Dreams and become who you are at the depth of your heart regardless of what anybody thinks. 

Often times we think we know ourselves enough but the truth is that what we know about ourselves are based on past experiences and achievements but we're completely unaware of what we are capable of doing and achieving, only if you knew the real you and what you are capable of doing, fear of failing, self doubt and low self-esteem won't be your companion. 

This is why I believe being who you are at the core of yourself is the pivot to which you could know yourself the best.

There's so much about you that you don't know yet ,all you've known about you are the once you've allowed yourself to know, stretch out yourself some more and you'd be surprised how high you're capable of soaring,  fine time and create time for yourself just for the purpose of knowing who you truly are and not the identity and the label society has placed on you.

Could it be that many people enjoy others company because they don't like their own company? In my opinion I would say most likely.

People can only enjoy your company when you love and value your own company. 

Solitude should be part of our to do list daily because that's when you can reconcile all parts of your lives together in a sync...It's a time were you can improve and work on yourself for the best.

How can this be achieved, Start becoming Who you are from Where you are with What you have because that glorious destiny you've been envisioning can only become a reality by an action step in a forward direction inspired by Conviction, fueled by Passion which is ignited by a Vision derived from a clear sense of Purpose. 

Always remember that we all 're responsible for the temporal  positions we're now and the difference between were we are now and were we should be depends on how much we believe in ourselves and our dreams because there's absolutely nothing that can stop an hungry lion from seeing an elephant as lunch, height and weight regardless...as long as there's passion, an obstacle can only but become a stepping stone towards your achieving greatness.

Determination, Planning and Action guarantees success and fulfillment of dreams. 

Stay blessed.

WAKE UP CALL

Have you thought of moving into your own personal greatness?

Going against the tides is the only option. 

You've got to tell yourself that in spite of what life has thrown on you , am still in charge. 

You've got to tell yourself I'm in control here, I decide the course of my life and I say when it's over.

Am not going to let this get me down or destroy me instead am going to ride on the wings of the storms like the Eagles. 

It isn't your circumstances or situations that will determine whether you'd be successful or not but your mind-set toward the circumstances that will guarantee your SUCCESS. 

A lot of people give up too soon in life, in their careers, businesses and above all in their destinies simply because the lost the battle in their mind.

Friends lemme remind you about something you'd already know...

Your mind is a battle - field and everything in existence today originated from the mind both the good and the bad once.

It depends on how you want the battle to end...It's always between you and your mind.

Everything that's visible to our sight today was sometime an image in someone's mind that took a battle before it made it into existence. 

Imagine if they had given up on themselves due to the circumstances that might have surrounded them as the case may be.

Good news is that they decided to win the battle in their mind rather than giving into defeat.

Let me also remind you of one of my favorite verses in the bible..."As a man thinks in his heart, so is he".

This is so true because We're the sum total of our thoughts, not more not less.

Factually, what fills our thoughts are simply what we read, listen to and watch...This sums up to our thoughts. 

So now you know how to influence your thoughts so as to influence your life positively. 

This goes futher to affirm that most atimes the person we often accuse as the enemy isn't the devil but the person we see when looking at the mirror.

We're our own enemy, as a matter of truth there's no enemy without except the enemy within.

We're so afraid of what we can't that what we can actually do ends up being muffled and suffocated. 

As had as it may sound, most of the limitation we've noticed in our lives aren't placed on us by the government or the society but rather by ourselves. 

We often allow the fears of the unknown to consume us of the exciting passion for discovering the unknown itself. ..what a tragedy. 

I rather not say I hate it when people say I can't do this or that due to the limitations and fears they have placed on themselves but instead I believe that either ways they're right in saying "I can do it" or "I can't do it".

The difference between them is simply their mindset, one sees an opportunity to make history the other sees how history has recorded that it has never been done...like i said earlier its your mindset.

It's sad when I hear people spend so much time and energy worrying about their fear of the future while in the present. My question would be...If you invest that much time and energy worrying today about tomorrow, what then would you be doing when that tomorrow finally becomes the present.

Don't get me wrong there's a big difference between worries and planning, and that will be that one will have detrimental effect on your health and the other will guarantee a stress free transition from were you are to were you should be. 

Truth is, insecure people worry...firm and decisive people make plans and stick to their priorities.

You can attest to the fact that ninety percent of what we're often afraid of was in the end "False Evidence Appearing Real"(FEAR).

That's why I believe that the best way to predict the future is to invent it with a plan which must have originated from the battle field of your mind.

Never give up on yourself or your dreams because as long as there's breath in you, the journey toward greatness isn't over yet.

I guess my final words for now will be...for us all to change the world around us as we anticipate, we need to change our innermost personality, our true self by changing our MINDS. 

We can only be transformed by the renewal of our minds, then shall we know what's perfect and acceptable will of God for our lives. 

Trust me you are more than what you assume yourself to be, determined to free yourself from worrying about tomorrow, let tomorrow think for itself , make plans and prioritize your time. Embrace each day as a gift and make the most of it. Dare to aspire for the best, think the unthinkable, imagine the unimaginable and dream with limitless possibilities because as a man thinks in his heart so he will eventually become.

THE POWER OF ATTITUDE

Attitude is simply define as "the mind-set or mental conditioning that determines our interpretation of and response to our environments." 

It's our way of thinking. 

It is also important to understand that attitude is a natural product of the integration of our self-worth, self-concepts, self-esteem, and sense of value or significance. 

In essence, your attitude is the manifestation of who you think you are. 

Leaders think differently about themselves, and this distinguishes them from followers.

There is nothing as powerful as attitude. 

Attitude dictates your response to the present and determines the quality of your future. 

You are your attitude, and your attitude is you. 

If you do not control your attitude, it will control you.

Attitude creates your world and designs your destiny. 

It determines your success or failure in any venture in life.

More opportunities have been lost, withheld, and forfeited because of attitude than from any other cause. Attitude is a more powerful distinction in life than beauty, power, title, or social status. 

It is more important than wealth and it can keep one poor. 

It is the servant that can open the doors of life or close the gates of possibility. 

It can make beauty ugly and homeliness attractive. 

Credentials can take you to the top but it's your attitude that will keep you there.

The distinguishing factor between a leader and a follower is ATTITUDE. 

The story of the lion and the sheep demonstrates the power of attitude. 

We live our attitudes and our attitudes create our lives. 

The difference between the attitudes of a lion and a sheep determines their place in the scheme of the animal kingdom. 

Perhaps that is why the Creator, as recorded in the books of the Hebrew writer Moses and other biblical writers, identifies himself with the unique temperaments or natures of certain animals.

We live our lives based on who we think we are. 

According to the illustration, if you believe in your heart that you are a sheep, then you will stay in the confines that others have placed you in or that you have made for yourself. 

If you think that you are a lion, then you will venture beyond manmade limitations and embark on the life of #leadership that you were born to live. 

You will develop into someone who inspires and influences others within your inherent domain.

No amount of training in #leadership skills, courses in management methods, power titles, promotions, or associations can substitute for the right attitudes. 

I am convinced that all the money in the world may make you rich, but it can never make you a leader. Your #leadership development is determined by your perceptions of who you are and why you exist in other words, your sense of significance to life.

HOW TO DEVELOP YOUR PERSONAL VISION

The following Eight words will guarantees it SUCCESS

PURPOSE

PASSION

POTENTIALS

PLANNING

PEOPLE

PERSISTENCE

PRINCIPLES

PRAYERS

Let's focus today on PLANNING

You must stop sit down and plan if you are going to fulfill your vision.

Success is the orderly ongoing advancement toward your goal.

Success is ariving at the place you'v plan and determined to arive. 

God desires your success more than you desires it yourself. 

God commands us to establish the goal that will lead us to our vision.

Failure to plan like they say is planning to fail but people sometimes make plans but do not follow through with the plan either because of laziness or procrastination. 

But the key is that you must plan your work and work your plan.

Planning is faith and faith is planning. 

This is true because faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen.

This means that the evidence of things not seen by anybody had to come from a plan.

Therefore faith is giving the unseen a substance by writing it down or by drawing them.

In this manner you have transferred that substance from the unseen to a seen reality; this is planning. 

The ability to document the future is faith.

To capture that which does not exist and put it down is planning. 

God is a God of faith and faith is believing on God's promises. 

Faith demands a plan.

Most Christian drift along without a plan and expect miracle to fall from Heaven like manner. 

Here's something interesting about God that you didn't know:God has a plan for you but He doesn't plan for you.

So planning is therefore the highest expression of faith in God because we plan for things we believe in.

It's through planning the we can capture God's will for our lives. 

Planning gives definition to faith.

Planning pulls God's promises from eternity into time.

Planning documents vision.

Without a plan life has no definition. 

Without a plan life has no meaning.

Without a vision the people perishes the Bible says.

A plan is a captured vision and without a plan there's no self control and goals management. 

Therefore understand that faith is expressed in planning and planning is faith.

This is why the Bible makes it clear that faith without work is death.

So planning without work equals failure. 

God himself is evident of faith, planning and success so studying God's principles of faith, planning and works will ultimately results in the fulfillment of your purpose and Visions for living. 

Also note that many are the plans in the heart of a man but it's the Lord's purpose that will prevail. 

Plans are changeable but purpose is not, meaning that plans are like variables but purpose is always constant. 

Note that , not fulfilling your plans doesn't mean that you are out of God's will.

That you failed in your previous plans doesn't mean that it was God but it simply requires a change of plans.

It's important that you sit down with your plans and break it down in details so as to eliminate any possible errors, this of course has to be with leadership and inspiration of the Holy Spirit.

Failure is simply another way to do it better, and a much better opportunity to start again. 

Don't quit until you win because you only loose when you quit.

Here's a quick review of how a perfect plan should proceed:

Identify God's purpose for your life.

Document an overview plan.

Sit down with the overview plan and break it down into little details. 

Estimate time and duration to each detailed plan.

Get the necessary information and knowledge required to ease the fulfillment of the plan.

Present that plan to God for approval and provisions. 

Don't be afraid of the cost because it's the Lord's to explain it's fulfillment. 

Be ready to sacrifice all for the success of the plan.

Be willing to die for what you are living for.

Be willing to work the plan with all passion even to the point of sacrificing your life for it because true plans and purpose are not self seeking but to serve others. 

Planning rushes heaven into action because God can only multiply what we present before him.

Plan are the desires of the heart and God said I will grant you all the desires of your heart (plans  emanating from God's purpose for your life).

This is true because the plans of the righteous are right.

It's funny how many people pray, for example some say:

Oh Lord help me...and the answer will be TO DO WHAT? 

Oh Lord direct my steps...and the answer will be TO WHERE?

Oh Lord bless me...and the answer will be FOR WHAT?

So it therefore means that if you do not have any plans, then God has nothing to HELP YOU WITH AND BLESS YOU because God does not waste resources where it's not needed and If you don't have a plan, then God can't direct you TO NO WERE because no were isn't a destination. 

This is how important it is to have a plan for your life and destiny because God can only lead, direct, approve, guide, bless, prosper and multiply a documented plan presented before him.

Please take time to meditate on this nuggets carefully, it will broadens your knowledge about planning from the wisest King that has ever lived.  King Solomon. 

THE DISCIPLINE OF VISION

Nothing discipline once life like Vision.

Discipline are self imposed standards for the sake of higher goals.

The key to fulfilling vision is self descipline, just as Solomon said 'Were there's no Vision the people perishes'.

This simply means that where there's no Vision people throw off restraint.

Where there's no Revelation of the future , people throw off self descipline. 

So the key to living a meaningful life is finding a Vision that imposses descipline on you.

We can then say that Vision is the source of descipline and the root of leadership. 

A descipline person do attract people to themselves because people admire descipline in others.

Self descipline create respect and trust.

A man or woman with a clear vision for their lives, live a very narrow life because Vision simplifies their life.

Also because Vision controls choices you make.

Vision defines what to do in life which automatically guards you from what not to do.

Vision delivers to you your final address called Destination or Destiny. 

With the destination in mind, the journey is simplified and choices are determined accordingly. 

Have this in thought that you weren't born to do everything, but to do few things.

This statement will only make sense to you if you've found out your Vision for life, then you'd realize that the rest of the things ain't necessary though important. 

This will create focus and desciplines your life into fulfillment. 

Vision is the ability to see beyond the present and create what exist but cannot be seen.

You only become a leader when you discover what you're supposed to master.

Everything you do in life is suppose to be motivated by your Vision. 

This is why poverty is not a PROBLEM but a RESULT of lack of motivation which should have come from a Vision. 

The said statement is true because vision helps you identify yourself before people in the world.

Meaning that if you want to be successful in life, you don't have to seek success but instead seek to become a person of VALUE in the area of your descipline and people will be attracted to your VALUE and pay dearly to benefit from them.

In other words, make yourself valuable and people will pay you for being a valuable individual.

Keep this in mind that, sight as a function of the eyes is the ability to see things as they are physically, but Vision as a function of the mind is the ability to see things as they could be in reality. Choose to see mostly with the eyes of your vision.

True vision is discovering something to die for: not just living for.

True Visions will be tested for authenticity by situations of life.

True vision comes from God and it's not self seeking.

True vision always benefits others, it always serves and impact others positively. 

Vision desciplines your life in the following ways:

It chooses your Future. 

It chooses your friends.

It chooses your use of time.

It chooses your priorities. 

It chooses your hobbies. 

It chooses your habits. 

It chooses your behaviors. 

It chooses your character. 

It chooses your personality. 

It chooses your career.

It chooses your profession.

It chooses your investments. 

It chooses your diets.

It chooses you to-do list.

It chooses your life's plan.

It dictates your values.

It chooses your likes and dislikes. 

It regulates how and where your life goes henceforth. 

The following are the impact of Vision on Leadership:

Vision clarifies Purpose. 

Vision gives direction in life.

Vision empowers you beyond your physical assets.

Vision creates and attracts resources. 

Wise people make decisions that protects their vision.

Here's how powerful Vision is:

It's the next best thing to Time travel.

It's seeing the future before it comes into existence. 

It fuels your passion toward it fulfillment and guards you from  accepting the present as the destination. 

Vision means that you expect more of your world than you're seeing currently. 

Vision means taking a bold step of faith.

Vision means venturing out with risk taking courage.

Vision means daring to hope for something beyond yourself. 

Vision is so powerful that it makes your believe in a brand new better world than the one we're in.

Vision is unlimited sight.

Vision is simply seeing beyond what your eyes can behold.

A strong vision inspires passion, this passion transforms and control your life.

Vision is the source of descipline. 

Without vision sight is hopeless especially in challenging times.

Great leaders live in the present but focus intensely on the future. 

In summary, a Vision should have the following components:

● A vision should be clear

●A vision should be simplified. 

●A vision should be documented.

●A vision should communicated in order to attract sponsors. 

●A vision should be evaluated.

● A vision should be visualized. 

●A vision should be imaginable.

●A vision should be focused on positive changes.

●A vision demand sacrifice. 

●A vision should be expressed with optimism that is worth believing in.

●A vision should be personal and always has one believer at first which is the visionary. 

●A vision should be relentlessly revised constantly. 

●A vision should be realized in phases.

●A vision should be difficult and seemingly Impossible to achieve, it may be out of reach but not out of sight.

●A vision may tarry, wait for it because it will definitly become a reality if you faint not. 

I implore you to rise up to your Vision today, get it on course and believe it while waiting it fulfillment God will perfect his words concerning your Life. 

And if probably you've not gotten your Vision outline as the case may be, kindly review this nuggets carefully in order to help you capture your God given Purpose and Vision for life. You may also review previous posts, it dealt alot with this subject.

Continue to stay passionate about your PURPOSE even as your Visions becomes a reality. God bless.

GOD'S PRINCIPLES FOR SUCCESSFUL FULFILMENT OF YOUR DREAMS IN LIFE.

The saddest man on earth and of course the poorest man on earth is a person without a dream.

Poverty in my opinion is a state of the MIND. 

Therefore if you don't have a dream in life, then you are really poor mentally. 

To be poor in this context has nothing to do with the lack of money but instead the lack of IDEAS & DREAMS.

It doesn't matter how much money you don't have ,but as long as you've got hope on a dream there's always a posibility of gaining the success you're dreaming about.

Bear in mind that dreams comes out of PURPOSE and there's no individual born on earth without a predistined purpose for their lives by God. 

And yet the most frustrated people in the world today are those with a dream but hasn't experience the reality of that dream.

It's true that everyone has a dream, had a dream or carrying one in their heart right now. 

So am convinced that every human being on earth was born with the ability to dream dreams and also the capacity to fulfilling them.

The few principles we shall be discussing today will ultimately shift your mentality in the positive direction into making that dream a reality.

Recalling as a young baby, a toddler and as a child we constantly were dreaming wild big dreams which I believe it was from God.

Recently I had a chat with my niece and I was amazed by what she told me was her dreams, though her reasons was quite hilarious but the passion she communicated that was so genuine and affective.

She said she wants to become a Space Scientists, for many of us if we could recall our childhood days we dreamt of becoming a Doctor, an Engineer, A Police officer, A Scientist, A Pilot , most of all The President of the World...Funny right😀.Some also thought of feeding and clothing every hungry person's on the street, and possibly give them an accommodation over their heads.

The point is that everybody dreamt dreams when they were young and still dreaming but their dreams is as far as it was when the were young.

And the reason why people's dreams don't come to pass is because they haven't learn how to exercise the principles that are designed in God's creation to fulfill those dreams.

Understand that a PRINCIPLE is different from FACTS

A Principle is a law that's established to create the environment to successfully produce the performance of the promise inside the principle.

To say this another way, a Principle is a fixed law established to guarantee the performance of a product.

This means that every manufacturer builts into his or her product a principle by which they must function,  and if you follow those principles the promise of the manufacturer will definitly be experienced. 

Therefore every form of success is really based on obedience to Principles. 

In order words being successful isn't luck. 

Being an effective person in your life isn't that you're lucky or furtunate but rather an interplay between adequate performance and obedience to Principles. 

Take for example, every seed has in it the ability and capacity of becoming a tree as long as the Principles that will guarantee the process is obeyed. 

This entails that you need to locate the right environment for the seed, dig the soil and bury it and water the seed.

I bet you would not need to pray and fast for the seed to germinate and grow, it will happen spontaneously because the principles built into the seed will take over the seed and transform it into a tree with fruits.

Therefore obedience to principles makes success automatic in nature. 

Principles are established to make life simple. 

And when principles are unknown, experimentation is inevitable. 

Truth is that God wants us to function according to his principles and precepts in order to guarantee our success. 

Fulfillment in life according to God's agender for our lives has nothing to do with accumulation of all the material things we pursue daily in life but instead it has to do with becoming exactly what he created us to be.

So I can therefore say that there are so many successful failures in our society today, succeeding in the wrong DIRECTION outside God's plan for their lives. 

Though they may apply principles which will lead to their success doesn't mean they have fulfilled their purpose. So accomplishing that which you were born to accomplish is the true success which brings fulfillment in the sight God.

People are failing in life not because of evil but because they have not discovered God's principles for life. 

God's principles are embedded in his Word which is our manual for life.

Principles are truth that are permanent but facts are simply the present state of things which often varies.

What am implying is that when reading the Bible do not look for facts and stories that coincide with your situation but instead meditate on God's principles in his Word and act upon them in order to guarantee your success in life. 

So once again obedience to God Principles guarantees a predictable outcome and inevitable success. 

This brings us to God's  principles that will guarantee your SUCCESS and FULFILLMENT in Life.

●The principles of PURPOSE:

To be successful you must have a personal Purpose.

Purpose is the original intent in the mind of God for creating you.

Purpose is the reason why you are necessary to exist and live in order to fulfill it.

Purpose is problem that necessitate the creation of a solution.

Purpose is the finished destiny awaiting to be accomplished.

Purpose is something that God wants to be done that can be accomplished by you only, and when you can see it, that becomes a Vision.

In order words Vision comes from a PURPOSE. 

Purpose is that factor that will make you disbelief people's opinion of yourself and believe only what God say's about your life.

Purpose gives birth to dreams and Vision. 

Purpose automatically reveals POTENTIALS. 

●The principles of POTENTIALS:

This is who you are but no one has seen it yet.

This is the hidden strength that's left unused.

This is unrealized abilities, talents and skills that's yet to be maximized. 

This is reserved energy yet to be released. 

This is what you can do but you've not done it yet.

This is where you could be but you've not been there yet.

This are things you could accomplish but you've not accomplished it yet.

Potentials are necessary to fulfill your dreams. 

●The principles of PASSION:

This is desire that's stronger than death.

This is an invinsible energy that's created by a purpose and meaning for life.

This is an invinsible energy that's observable and transferable filled with enthusiasm. 

This is an invinsible energy that evolves into conviction. 

This is a commitment that's beyound contention. 

This is a kind of spirit that says to Life...'am going to live you till I finish you'.

This is a mindset that never takes No for an answer. 

This is an urge that can't be stopped by the threat of death.

Passion is mandatory for dreams to be kept alive.

●The principles of PLANNING:

It's the management of the distance between your conception and destination in life.

It's giving time meaning motivated by a clear sense of purpose. 

It's the documentation of how time will be used based on your vision.

It's the predetermined schedule of time investment.

It's best way to regulate life.

It's the appropriation of resources. 

It's taking control of the future while in the present.

It guarantees success and fulfillment. 

The best way to predict the future is to invent and document a plan. 

●The principles of PEOPLE:

This has to do with people that will help you get to your dreams.

This has to do with people that believes in your vision as much as you do yourself. 

This has to do with people that will nourish your dreams and not abort them.

This has to do with people that's going your direction in life. 

This has to do with people that are also pregnant with a dream for their lives. 

This has to do with people that will talk you into your dreams and how much you can fulfil it.

This has to do with people that will teach you, train you, help you, expose you and motivate into fulfilling your dreams.

●The principles of PERSISTENCE:

This is a consistent insistence that you have going after your dreams.

This is refusing to stop despite the odds. 

This means standing against every opposition and  obstacles on your way to fulfillment. 

This means interpreting a 'No' for answer as 'Wait'.

This simply means you are permitted to quit only after fulfillment. 

Persistence is that resilience that doesn't give in or give up on dreams. 

●The principles of PRAYER:

Prayer means to commune with the source of the Dreams.

Prayer means common union with the one that gave you the Vision and Purpose for sustenance and provisions. 

Prayer simply means consulting with the boss for any necessary adjustments needed.

Prayer revives your reserve when you are tired and drained by the ordeals of life.

Prayer refills your passion for persistence toward fulfillment. 

Prayer keeps a Vision on check to guard against misdirection. 

To be successful in life, then prayer is inevitable. 

The aforementioned and discussed principles are the bases to which a successful life can be built on.

History itself has it that every successful and Fulfilled person both in the Bible and in the circular world today did observed this principles in their lives that guaranteed their success and fulfillment,  therefore you can't be an exemption if you follow through this principles with a keen sense of obligation. 

Let yesterday be the last day you spent on something that's not getting you closer and closer to the fulfillment of your dreams. 

And if you've not gotten your Visions and Dreams on course yet, now is the time to make that decision and commit yourself to it fulfillment. 

We will be glad to help you capture your God given Purpose and Vision for life...Send us message on our Page on Facebook at 'Reorient Youth Foundation' ROYFOUND. and we will sure be of help to you.

Stay blessed.

YOU'RE UNIQUE FOR A REASON

Comparison is a demonstration of ignorance of the uniqueness of destinies. Wishing to be like another person is a demonstration of ignorance of uniqueness of destiny. 

I have realised that there are no two destinies that are exactly the same. 

Likewise as we are different in appearance,so is our destinies.

The process of your life is different from the process of my life. 

How God processes me to reach my destiny is different from how He processes you to reach your destiny. 

The pathway of Moses was different from the pathway of David. 

Yet both of them reached the top. 

Don't compare yourself with anybody. 

If the process that God is taking a person is different from your own process, you don't need to compare yourself. 

Only God knows why the prison was necessary for the destiny of Joseph. 

Comparison again blinds a person of the reality of life. 

There is more to everything we see than what meets the eye. 

Probably the person you are envying is praying to God to get a miracle that you have but that you don't know. 

There are times you are envying someone and if God should open up the whole details, you wouldn't like to exchange places. 

So please stop wishing to be like others because its a demonstration of ignorance of the uniqueness of your destiny.

Discover your's and stick to it,while God is taking the lead.

What really would make you compare is due to the fact that,your ignoring the messages and the lessons you should learn out of the situations you passed through yesterday and equally the once your facing currently,...

Believe it or yes,NOTHING under the sun happens as a coinsidence,

It's divinely ochestrated by God just to shape your destiny and make out of your life the personality He created you  to be.

Friends its time we change the question from "Why Me?" to "What's the Message for me in this Situation?".

If the message requires endurance,let go,forgiveness,sacrifies,giving,hepling...

Whatever it may be,as long as you'v clearly heard from your inner man(Holy Spirit) please do,it's worth it.

Make that an habit in your life,and you'l see your life and destiny catch up together sooner than you'd be expecting. 

You're unique, special, different in all ramifications, distinct in character, outstanding in personality and above all else fearfully and wonderfully made...So feel free to call yourself a Masterpiece of God's creation of which He derives pleasure in.

 

This is who you are!!!

So refuse to see yourself less by comparing yourself with others.

And remember it's what you think of yourself that matters and not the opinions of other's, you are the only person that actually understands YOU and eventually how far you go.

YOU'RE JUST SO UNIQUE. ...YES YOU'RE 😃

THE MYTH OF SINGLENESS

The issue of relationships are the key problems in the society today.

People and the society this days have so misunderstood phrases like Relationship, Dating , Singleness and being Unmarried to the point that many have lost their way as to the meaning of these words.

As such people get under stress due to lack of understanding of what this enigmatic phrases really means and requires. 

I would hold off on Dating since it has much to do with, but will certainly be talked about in the subsequent discussions. 

So let's kick off talking about RELATIONSHIPS

There are two kinds of relationship i would like us to emphasis with respect to their priorities. 

This includes:

*INTRA-PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP...This has to do with yourself first.

*INTER-PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP...This of course is the usual relationship people often go after with another person. 

 Imperatively, Intra personal relationship is the first everyone should sort after even before thinking about engaging into an Inter - personal relationship reasons of which we will discuss in the course of this adventure. 

Until you get your intra personal relationship sorted out, you can't help but fail in your interpersonal relationship. 

To start with let's understand some of the advantages of being SINGLE:=

It's more important to be single than to be married....'though statement right?' Just hang on cos you'd fine clarity as to why that statement is True.

This is perhaps why divorce is rampant because the individuals that made up that marriage weren't SINGLE before getting into the union

In reality, most people try to get married in order for them to avoid being single...'how sad it sounds'

In order for us to strike an understanding of the word SINGLE,  let's understand first it priority and purpose. ...

GOD being the creature of all things created things in order of priority first and then the adjoining preferences afterwards. 

So God created a single individuals first (Adam and afterwards made Eve for Adam as helper)and said this is good, He didn't create a MARRIAGE or a COUPLE meaning that, for the said marriage to exist you need two SINGLE individuals to make that possible.

Further down the creation process He said that ....'it's not good for this single individual to be alone'.
When God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.
 I will make a helper suitable for him” (Gen. 2:18),
He was saying, in essence, “I will make someone who will solve the male’s aloneness.”

Now, Adam did not go looking for a wife.
She was God’s idea for him.
 Adam was so busy doing what God had told him to do that he didn’t even know he needed a woman.
God had to tell him, “Man, it’s not good for you to be alone.”
Note that God didn’t say Adam was lonely.
There is a difference between “being alone” and “being lonely.”
You can be lonely in a crowd, but you can be alone and be as happy as a lark.
 There is nothing wrong with being alone at times.
The Bible tells us that it’s important to be alone and quiet before the Lord.
Jesus often made it a point to go off by Himself in order to pray and rest.
 Being alone can be healthy, but loneliness is a disease.

Some of you single men and women are afraid of being alone.
When you hit age twenty-five, you begin to think you’re past your prime, and so you say to yourselves, “I’m never going to get married.
I’d better latch onto the first thing that comes along.”
That’s the reason many people marry spouses who aren’t right for them.
 Do you know what the problem is? They haven’t learned what it means to be a whole person.

Adam was so together as a man that he didn’t even know he was alone.
He was busy obeying God’s Word; he was so occupied with dominating, ruling, and subduing; he was so lost in what he was doing, that he didn’t know he needed somebody.

 But most of us do the reverse.
 We don’t have time for God because we’re busy trying to find a mate.
Some people run from church to church looking for a spouse.
 They don’t go to church to worship God; instead, they walk around checking out the opposite sex.

They say, “Huh, that’s a nice one over there.
Really cool.” Instead, they’re supposed to be getting themselves together so they can be ready for the one whom God is preparing for them.
 Become so preoccupied and consumed by God that you don’t walk around with a passion that’s looking for a place to happen.

Adam was so prepared for Eve that when he saw her, all he said was, “Woooo-man!”
But you see, he didn’t go looking for her.
 Jesus talked about the attitude we should have when He said, in effect, “Don’t worry about what you’re going to eat, what you’re going to wear, or whom you’re going to marry.

Seek first the kingdom of God.
Become immersed in His righteousness.
Then your mate will be added to you.” (See Matthew 6:31–33.)
Become like Adam—get lost in the garden of God’s righteousness.
Get lost in God, because when He brings you a spouse, you had better understand His ways.
Adam was so busy following the command of God that, when his mate came along, he was ready, and it was the right time for him.

Take note of the following fact about SINGLENESS:

*It's the foundation of all relationships

*Failure to fix this foundation ultimately would resolve in Divided Vision (Divorce)

*Divorce is the hypothetical death of relationship and it's worst than real death

*Divorce is impossible without marriage

*Marriage is impossible without individuals

*Healthy single individuals are the prerequisites for an healthy marriage. 

Therefore any marriage is as good as the singles in it...not more not less.

You bring to the marriage whatever you are as a single individual. 

So if you don't like the outcome you are seeing in your marriage or relationship then check the quality of singles in it.

Now you see why is vehemently important to be single before and during marriage...'though statement right? '

This however means that what ever the single individuals are and their persona ...that's exactly what they will eventually pour into their marriage. 

Permit me to list a few that often would lead to a misunderstanding due to carelessness during singlehood, this may include:

● Bad breath.

●Dirty habits. 

●Belching out loud seen as an irritable habit in some ethnicity. 

●Pressing toothpaste either from the top, middle or bottom...Of course being habitual rather than disgusting in nature. 

● Always forgetting to flush after using the restroom. 

●Always forgetting to wash hands either after using the restroom or before eating. 

●Smelly socks.
●When to draw boundaries on funny jokes.

●Sleeping with lights on or off....etc funny right!!!

If those behaviors of which some are inappropriate, aren't fix during your singlehood , your marriage will  be nothing less than those lifestyles. 

So what am I saying in escence, THE BETTER YOUR INTRA-PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP IS IN YOUR SINGLEHOOD THE BEST YOUR INTER-PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WOULD BECOME WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED. 

Marriage doesn't improve your singleness or the  lack of it but instead it exposes how single you were before getting married...because all by yourself, your persona is always safe and nobody gets know them except the once you allow people to know. But immediately you get married or in an interpersonal relationship...Oops, it will definitly become known whether good or bad, it can't be hidden anymore. 

So the question now would be. ..IF YOU KNEW ALL THAT YOU KNOW ABOUT YOU NOW , "WOULD YOU MARY YOU"?????....Don't answer it....just think through it and see whether that is worth giving to another person to live with for the rest of their lives in the union called marriage. 

This is how important it is to be SINGLE first before anything else. 

THE MYTH OF SINGLENESS

*To be single does not equal being unmarried. 

*It's okay to be Single but not good to be Alone.

*It's not a SINGLENESS PROBLEM that we have but BEING SINGLE PROBLEM. 

*Never confuse singleness with being Alone.

*Relationship gets better the more single you become. 

*Singleness is a state to be pursued but not to be avoided. 

* To be single should be the goal of every married person because singleness increases the value you bring to the relationship and the more worth you will eventually become to your spouse. 

* Singleness is what every individuals need before marriage rather than pursuing marriage then at the end of it all you do not have someone to present to whomever you meet as a spouse. 

*Sigleness is God's original foundation for relationship and marriage and should remain that way.

THE PRINCIPLES,PURPOSE AND PRIORITY OF SINGLENESS

*Singleness is the most important state of human development. 

*Singleness is the foundation of God's design for the human family.

*God began the human family with one single human being, not a couple. 

* Single individuals are the basic component of a meaningful & healthy relationship and marriage. 

*Singleness is the first building block of human society, not marriage.

*A male man was the first individual God created to sustain the human race.

*God placed him at EDEN which is interpreted as: The spot and moment were the presence of God was an open door to Heaven.

*The first thing a man needs is the Presence of God and not a partner because it's the only environment that enables him to get his purpose outlined so as to function properly. 

*The male man ought to have discovered his work (Purpose and Vision for life) from this ideal environment 'Eden' before thinking about engaging into the union called marriage. 

Taking a quote from the Bible in Gen.2:18...' It's not good for this single individual (Adam) to be alone therefor I will make him an helper' emphasis added. 

The word ALONE in the verse is interpreted in Hebrew to be a combination of two words ALL IN ONE. 

Let's look at the word ALONE (ALL IN ONE)with reference to the Bible verse

○It's not good for man to be EXCLUSIVE...One of your kind.

○It's not good for man to be ISOLATED...Having non like him.

○It's not good for man to be in SOLITARY STATE

So singleness is God's default program for the human family.

TO BE SINGLE MEANS TO BE:

SEPARATE= :

●That's being set apart from others

●Being detached from others

●Being different from others.

UNIQUE=:

● That's being original. 

● Being distinctive. 

● Being special. 

WHOLE=:

●That's being complete.

● Being Unified .

● Being one with yourself. 

● Above all to be one.

It's the above listed qualities that make you valuable and being sort after as a single individual. 

It's also the list that gives you  your self worth and sense of purpose. 

THE BLESSING OF SINGLENESS

★It's awesome state to be pursued but not avoided.

★To be single should be the goal of every married person. 

★It affords you the privelage to know who you truly are. 

★It enhances focus and the discovery of oneself.

★It encourages appropriate time management. 

★It impact self descipline on oneself.

★It imposses a sense of responsibility and duty to anything and everything you do. 

★It gives you the room to be comfortable with yourself in other to enjoy your future partner's company. 

★It makes you appreciate other single individuals opinions .

★It make you to understand and value other people's similarities and differences. 

★It's an adorable and a memorable experience ordained by God as a prerequisites for marriage and relationships. 

SINGLENESS WITH RESPECT TO RELATIONSHIP

●You are not ready to live with someone else until you can live with yourself. 

●Your relationship can only be as good as your singleness. 

●No human can meet your ego needs, soul needs and above all your Spiritual needs, you can only get them from being single. 

MARRIAGE AND ALONENESS

☆Marriage doesn't solve loneliness problem but exposes it.

☆It's possible to be unmarried and not alone.

☆Marriage wasn't instituted to solve problem of being alone but rather human being were created to solve the 'aloneness ' problem. 

☆Marriage is the collision of two unknown histories in one matrimonial home half of which won't be discovered or discussed among themselves. 

☆Marriage is also the creation of a third family separate from the bride and grooms family and not the merging of two families to become one, this will guard against intrusion.  

Until you are SEPARATE, UNIQUE AND WHOLE....you are not ready for marriage. 

So don't pursue marriage first but seek and long for singleness first amongst all.

Fall in love with yourself first before you do so with others , it's the greatest thing you can ever give to someone else's .

I sincerely hope that you would go through this reading several times as possible to get the intended message that accompanies this enigmatous subject. I confer my warm wishes to you even as you thrill yourself with the reading so you can make the most of your SINGLENESS OR SINGLEHOOD.

GOD BLESS YU'LL.