CONFLICT AND RELATIONSHIP

CONFLICT AND RELATIONSHIP

If you would be sincere to yourselve,then you'l agree with me that no matter how good your RELATIONSHIP may be, 

No matter how strong your love for each other may be,CONFLICTS WILL ARISE.

When it dose,that should not be an indication to end the Relationship.

If you do not deal with your conflicts now,they may destroy your Relationship in future.

Believe me if your do not encounter CONFLICTS in your Relayionship,if everything is going on smoothly.

Please become suspiciouse because someone is playing a good job of lying to the other person or worst still both of you are deceiving yourselves.

Conflict arises out of  distinct differences and peculiar personalities that lies within our temperaments.

They are:Sanguine,Choleric,Melancholic and phlegmatic,everyone  has this distinct characters in them

It makes them different from everyone else.

Its important to know that 'Two Opposite' temperaments often attracts each other.

More so,its obviouse that male and female reason,think,feel,see and approach issues from different perspectives.

Relationship usually begins from the known to the unknown.

When you first met each other,you were attracted by each other's similarities.

But the closer you get to know the other party the more glaring your differences will manifest and will lead to a conflict. 

Resolving conflicts is one of the major ways through which your relationship gets stronger and better.

Never permit external forces of friends or family to sow seeds of discord,ill feelings into your relationship,its increases the rate of reoccurence of Conflicts.

Learn to protect your relationship.

Conflict may have spiritual root,therefore you have to deal with them PRAYERFULLY.

Always ask for divine help of the Holy Spirit before raising up an issue for Resolutions.

COMMUNICATION is the back-bone to which Relationship is built,

Dimminishing communication is a sign of a declining relationship.

The best communication skills you can develop is listening,...practically you enjoy spending much time with some that listens to you while you talk.

You feel they care and are really interested in you.

Never get scared to confront an issue,even when he or she tries to be evasive or uses emotional manipultion tactics like sulking,crying,and rage

Stand your ground and demand answers.

Go right to the point,avoid bringing up past issues unless its will help in clarifying some fact for better understanding in the present discours.

Becareful when raising issues most especially sensitive matters...they should be treated with outmost carefullness and sincerity of heart without bias.

Be sure you schedule your talk sessions equally,one taking turn after another and not both parties at once.

It show respect and maturity on both sides.

More so,issues like this should be discoursed in a serin(natural landscapes) environment,its calms the mind and relaxes the nervs.

Dialougue is always the best way of resolving CONFLICTS IN RELATIONSHIPS and never should you accept MUTE MODE as explaination for unresolved issues.

The female folks may be provoking many atimes but guys bear with them when such happens,sooneer than noticed they will switch back to their appropriate behaviour
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For the guys,do not attemps raising your hands on a Lady in anger,it reduces your protective rule as a man.

It also drains your intergrity as the head man.

Nobody should be proud about being the first to say"I'm Sorry".

It dose not reduce or add anything to your personaly,it only entails that you value your Relationship more than your ego.

There should be a reassurance from both parties for commitment to the relationship
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Hiding your anger behind a facede of smiles may be suicidal to your relationship.

The first step to resolving and neutralizing conflicts is opening up and talking about them when they are yet small.

Abusive,derogatory,insulting languages should not be used.

Like I said earlier,having listen and being listend to,this kind words "I'M SORRY" should be expressed politly from both parties as a sign of remorse.

UNDERSTANDING decreases the rate at which conflict arises in a Relationship.

Seek to understand each other,starting from the temperament down to the minor things you might feel its unecessary.

It matters.

In all God should be at the center of your Reationship,like i said in the previous sequels:

It should be PURPOSE BASED RELATIONSHIP.

Hope to come your way agian soon,untill then remain blessed. 
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