THE MYTH OF FINDING A PARTNER

Let me begin by saying that God does not have one and only special person for us as regarding marriage.

There are a number of people in the world who are potential mates for us because of similarities in personality, character, values, and interests to our own.

If there are a number of "suitable " candidates for us to marry, then marrying one of them becomes a choice that we have to make.

The choice that we make to marry a particular person calls for a firm commitment on our part to be faithful to the one we have chosen.

God does not choose the person He wants us to marry, if there was a thing He could have chosen for us that would be OUR SALVATION but still, you have the choice to choose to be saved.

God created all of us with the freedom to choose, and He never violets that freedom.

God may bring potential mates across your path like He brought Eve to Adam. But He does not choose that person for you.

You have to make the choice yourself based on what you learn about that person and on the nature of friendship you desired before hand.

The world builds relationship on the bases of certain criteria such as: Physical appearance, Social status, Intellectual ability, and financial means but this ain't the true bases on making a decision such as Marriage.

The key to finding the right mate is first to identify the qualities and character that  you hold as your standards without compromise, and then evaluate the potential candidate that fits according to those standards.

Out of all the people you know, out of all the friendships you developed, out of all the legitimate "possible " options before you, you have to choose one person with whom you wish to spend the rest of your life with.

Don't forget that God only provides us with the RAW MATERIALS FOR EVERYTHING, HE NEVER GIVES US READY MADE MATERIALS. so even while choosing , have in mind that you may not have all your listed qualities checked, that means the rest of the mental pictures you have in your head is left for you to work out and make it a reality in your spouse's.

It's always edifying following God's standards as regarding choosing your life partner, because discovering God's Original intent and purpose for your life has a direct dependence as to who you would choose as your partner. As long as fulfillment of your destiny is concerned, your spouse has a greater part to play either to help you get there or to abort your efforts of arriving there.

Choose YOUR SPOUSE WITH WISDOM.